Thursday, August 28, 2008

Top 20 Reasons I Go Hard With The Obama's, The Biden's, & The DNC!

Ga-ree-tings one and all! I know that it has been a NICE little minute since I last wrote, but have no fear I am here ;) As with many of you, I too have been glued to CNN and C-Span this week to watch the Democratic National Convention in Denver. As the convention comes to close, I would like to offer my top 20 reasons of why I support the Obama's, the Biden's, & the DNC.

20. The party is being unified onxw again!
19. I've never been able to watch the same channel for 5-6 hours straight for almost an entire week!
18. Barack is the change I want to see in this world.
17. The music at the convention has been WONDERMUS!
16. White people grooving to Earth, Wind & Fire cracks me up because they be GETTING it! (Yes, incorrect English!)
15. Little kids are fascinated with Barack & his stance on world issues (I know Royce is) and that makes me happy!
13. Those in attendance @ the DNC talk during everything, unless it's somebody important! lol
12. The stylists for the Obama's & Biden's are BOMB.COM!
11. Barack said "Mama Biden"...nuff said! ((you down with OPP?!))
10. Myself or someone else needs to institute a 2 piece MAX 'nalia rule! You cannot wear a straw hat with 5-8 buttons, a customized T-shirt, suspenders, buttons, stickers, a belt, socks, a lanyard, a bag AND a sign! MA'AM...SIR! It's just TOO MUCH!!! And if you decide to do a customized glitter hat with feathers and such, you can only wear black from the neck down with nothing else on!
9. Michelle isn't afraid to show emotion.
8. I love the fact that she seems like my auntie or my sister/friend...just really relatable.
7. And she's SUCH a classy woman!
6. Sasha looks bad as hell, but that's completely normal. She's 7! What do we expect?!
5. Malia looks like a bookworm...presh!
4. Michelle looks like she doesn't mind breaking her foot off into those kids asses when needed!
3. Barack's the typical dad who has daughters...he doesn't step in until it's REALLY bad.
2. They have publically rejuvinated committed Black love and relationships!

Thursday, July 31, 2008

I Haven't Figured This One Out...

Long time...NO TALK! I know. Today's question comes from a reader and she really wants some responses back. Hopefully this can create some good convo!!!

So, what does it take for a guy to have a sexual relationship with a girl? On what level does he have to be attracted to her? And how does it differ for females?

Thursday, July 24, 2008

I Know This May Seem Coincidental & Such...

I haven't written in SO long...mainly because I didn't have anything to say. No thoughts...nothing. Very much just blah about a lot of things. Since the last time I wrote, much of my confusion has been erased ::praise Jeru:: Though it's had to knock me up against my head a few times, I'm convinced "When people show you who they are the first time, believe them." I've also realized that whenever I'm confused about a situtation, if I just sit back, it all figures itself out. And the answer is very plainly written. I mean people who I just talk to every blue moon have been hitting me up and just sharing life stories and experiences and speaking MUCH needed truth. So I'm just gonna say that I'm happy where I am. No particular reason, person, or situation, but I'm happy. Life's good...I'm good.

Now I titled this piece, "I Know This May Seem Coincidental & Such..." because the two questions I have may seem like they're stemmed from CNN's Black in America special. However, I didn't get a chance to catch the entire thing. So, these two questions have been circulating around me and some brotherfriends & sisterfriends of mine for a few weeks and I kept forgetting to put them up here. But last night's special did remind me to make a written note to talk about this today.

Question #1: Is there a difference between being thirsty and being aggressive when pursuing a person you want? (Let me know if clarification is needed.)

Question #2: I've always envisioned myself marrying a Black man, whenever I finally chose to take that next step. However, according to last night's reinforced statistics those chances for me and my girl's who share the same beliefs are not in our favor. I know Black men date and marry outside of their race all of the time. But are there any women who are willing to date AND marry outside of their race since we're at a depletion of Black men? And brotha's chime in on any part of this convo!!!

That's all :)

Friday, July 11, 2008

Excuse Me? Am I Misreading This Thing...

This is how I feel right now. Confused...Torn...Lost...All of that. Now not in every area of my life, only in one particular area. I don't know whether to move on to another situation...or to stay here and see what pans out. But then I don't want to stay here and miss out on another opportunity just to see what happens. On the other hand, I don't wanna not see what this has to offer and just go back. I know we should live life with no fear and follow our hearts. But what if your heart is truly torn between the two. This is not to say that I'm in love, or @ least I don't think that I am, but I do care for both. I don't want to feel stupid. But I don't want to hold up my life either just to see what he's gonna say. I just don't know. One has my mind and another has my heart and I just don't know which one I want. I know that no one can give me the answers I want, I can't even give them to myself. This is just really weird...

At one point, it seemed I was good. Not that I had the key to everything, but it seemed like I was on smooth sailing, enjoying the ride. But all of a sudden a strong wind came from nowhere and got my map all wet and I can't read it anymore. North, South, East, & West aren't written in plain ol' English anymore. Any way I turn the map confuses and scares me. I don't wanna say yes to one and then feel stupid YET again. That's like sooooo 2007, lol. I really just don't know. I'm trying to listen to my heart and my mind, but I don't feel like I'm hearing anything and that's what scares me.

So I ask...what do you do when you once felt nothing from anywhere, but now your emotions are all over the place and you just feel lost?

Thursday, July 10, 2008

I Spy...

First off, I haven't written for two reasons: 1) I've been working these last few days //surprising, I know\\ 2) I haven't been why force it?! Well @ any rate, work has slowed down for a moment and I now have a few things I need to get off of my chest. So today's blog will be a little tangent of each thing that I may later expound upon individually.

Tangent #1: Everything You Do In the Dark WILL Come to Light

After recent conversations with friends and family members on a myriad of topics, a few "secrets" have been let out. Things that people have not only hidden from me, but their spouses, family members, pastors, mentees, and those of the like. Is pride that big and strong that one would rather put up a facade to make a situation seem like something it's not? Is the truth THAT painful?! I don't know...but I do know that a truthful mind and soul helps me to sleep at night. I don't know how other people do it! MY GOODNESS!

Tangent #2: Everything In Life Will NOT Be Given to Us On Silver Platters & Spoons

Even though my life may look good to some, TRUST I have had to work for the little that I do have. Though some things were born in me, I still had to work on those gifts and talents too. I didn't just up and one day end up a mime {{if I do say so myself ;)}}, the same goes with singing, playing any sports, whatever. I was given something, and I worked with what I have. People have told me that I don't know the meaning of struggle, that I'm spoiled, and that life has always been easy. Well if that ain't far from the truth, then I don't know what is! Just because I don't sit around complaining about what has happened in my life and how I've been in a house with no lights on because we just didn't have the money, doesn't mean we haven't struggled. My struggle may not have been your struggle, but I too know the meaning of struggle. I don't apologize for having a mother who made up in HER mind to do better for herself and her children. I don't apologize if people do think I'm spoiled. Whatever. But I can tell you this, my life has been no fairy tale. Don't let what I look like now fool ya ;)

Tangent #3: Your Pride Will Always Get You In Some Type of Trouble

Now there is a HUGE difference between being prideful and confident. I'm gonna use a few definitions of each word, just so I can be clear in my point. I think anyone who has mind and can think can see the contrasting differences. But regardless if you're a Christian or not, the Psalm has a very valid point, in my personal opinion. If we are truthful and honest and hardworking and integril, why wouldn't God, the Creator, keep good things away from us. <> I just believe that we could have what we TRULY need and some of our wants too if we weren't such prideful beings at times.

Ok...enough of my ramblings! Toodaloo

And another thing!



We can NOT sit around acting like people are just supposed to do stuff for us because we're ::insert your name here::. BooBoo! NO LOVE MUFFIN! NO MA'AM NO SIR! Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that. If you want something, get up and get it.

Ok, that's all for real...I think

Wait 2 more minutes!

Tangent #5: It's Not Selfish To Take A Break from Some People

Have you ever people in your life that just DRAINED you?! Like O-M-G! Always complaining about something...always got something to say...stubborn...stuck in their ways?! Lawd of mercy! That's some monkey doodle foolishness! I have to step back and reevaluate a particular relationship because it's just so draining. I help those who are willing to help themselves. But I'm willing to risk my sanity, my peace of mind, joy, etc just to help other people with their problems and they're not trying to solve them.

................which leads me to tangent #6!.....................

Tangent #6: At The End of the Day, People Are Gonna Do Whatever They Wanna Do

I think this one is pretty self-explanatory.

I'm done for real this time :)

Monday, July 7, 2008

Unhealthy Lifestyles: Part One--Rear View Living

Hello one & all! I hope that each of you had a great and safe holiday weekend. This post is coming close to the time I get off from work because I actually had something that I needed to complete by tomorrow!

As I was talking with some friends last week, we started talking about unhealthy habits that we all have at one point in time. These habits may include diet and exercise, but these aren't the ones that will be discussed. Every Monday during July, I will address a different issue in the series. The first one in the series is entitled, Rear View Living.

Now, the majority of us know how to drive. If we don't know how, we at least know some basic things about operating a car. A major rule that we know is that, you cannot drive while looking in the rear view mirror. Though it helps to look at the mirror every once in a while, that is not where our focus should be. If we try to drive while using that mirror, we will cause accidents, miss exits, and most importanly hurt ourselves and others. While driving, we have this big window that allows us to see what is going on immediately in front of us; whether traffic is slowing down, speeding up, at a standstill, or if we're the only one on the road.

This is often reflective of our everyday lives. We have life, this big opportunity, that allows us to experience different things, meet different people along the way, and to enjoy at racing speeds or when the speed limit is 15mph. As we are on the road of life, however, we cannot become consumed with past mistakes, upsets, or trials. We have to look at those moments through our rear view mirrors and not focus on them. Because if we focus on them, we will miss out on all of the good things, people, and opportunities we are destined to experience. In moments when life is extremely good, we should briefly look through our rear view mirrors to see how far we've come, but not to get out and park our cars there. Look out of your rear view mirror and laugh about choices you made. Or to reflect how God brought you through YET ANOTHER situation.

So regardless of what has happened in life, keep looking out of your main window so that you can see what's ahead of you. Now I'm not promising that you'll be able to see everything coming your way, but if you look out of the bigger window, you'll be better off than looking out of the rear view mirror.

Which mirror are you looking out of?

Thursday, July 3, 2008

I Know That's Right!

Today I woke up in a GLORIOUS mood!!! Even though it was raining outside, I was happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm not quite sure if it's because today begins the holiday and there's no work tomorrow or what. But this sister right here is good. Got in the car and did my daily iPod routine. This morning's choice was a random mix of R&B. And who got me grooving, MARY J. BLIGE! Unlike some people, I have ALWAYS been a fan MJB...since I was a tiny tot for Christ. Though I was only 6 when her first album What's the 411? was released, I thoroughly remember screaming the lyrics of "You Remind Me," "Real Love," "Love No Limit" and others. I've always appreciated her realness and rawness in her music because it always just spoke to the core of my heart. She's grown so much as a person and as an artist, and I've enjoyed experiencing it. I've been to several of her concerts and each time she leaves me literally I lose my voice.

Anywhoo, I realized too, like Mary, I've come to a very good, solid place in my life today. Not saying that everything has always been peachy and great, but at this moment I am Just Fine! I have everything I need and that is more than a lot of people can say. I have a family that loves me, friends that support me, but most importantly, I have self-love. I could write a lot more on this topic, but I choose to simply end with the lyrics from "Just Fine." I doubt I'll blog again until Monday. So have a great and safe holiday weekend!

"Just Fine"

You know I love music
And every time I hear something hot
It makes me wanna move
It makes me wanna have fun
But it’s something about this joint right here
This joint right here
Its makes me wanna…..Woooh

Let it go……
Can’t let this thing called love get away from you
Feel free right now, going do what you want to do
Can’t let nobody take it away, from you, from me, from we
No time for moping around, are you kidding?
And no time for negative vibes, cause I’m winning
It’s been a long week, I put in my hardest
Gonna live my life, feels so good to get it right

So I like what I see when I’m looking at me
When I’m walking past the mirror
No stress through the night, at a time in my life
Ain’t worried about if you feel it
Got my head on straight, I got my mind right
I aint gonna let you kill it
You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just…..

Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Just fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just fine

Feels so good, when you’re doing all the things that you want to do
Get the best out of life, treat yourself to something new
Keep your head up high
In yourself, believe in you, believe in me
Having a really good time, I’m not complaining
And I’m a still wear a smile if it raining
I got to enjoy myself regardless
I appreciate life, I’m so glad I got mine
So I like what I see when I’m looking at me

When I’m walking past the mirror
Aint worried about you and what you gonna do
I’m a lady so I must stay classy
Got to keep it hot, keep it together
If I want to get better
You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just…..
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Just fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
You see I won’t change my life, my life’s just fine

I aint gon’ let nothing get in my way
(I ain't gone let nobody bring me down, no, no, no)
No matter what nobody has to say
(No way, no way, no way)
I ain’t gon’ let nothing get in my way
No matter what nobody has to say

Feels so good, when you’re doing all the things that you want to do
Get the best out of life, treat yourself to something new
It’s a really good thing to say
That I won’t change my life, my life’s just fine

Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Just fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
You see I won’t change my life, my life’s just fine

So I like what I see when I’m looking at me
When I’m walking past the mirror
No stress through the night, at a time in my life
Ain’t worried about if you feel it
Got my head on straight, I got my mind right
I ain’t gonna let you kill it
You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just…..

Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
Just fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, ooooh
You see I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just fine