I Haven't Figured This One Out...

Long time...NO TALK! I know. Today's question comes from a reader and she really wants some responses back. Hopefully this can create some good convo!!!


So, what does it take for a guy to have a sexual relationship with a girl? On what level does he have to be attracted to her? And how does it differ for females?

Excuse Me? Am I Misreading This Thing...

This is how I feel right now. Confused...Torn...Lost...All of that. Now not in every area of my life, only in one particular area. I don't know whether to move on to another situation...or to stay here and see what pans out. But then I don't want to stay here and miss out on another opportunity just to see what happens. On the other hand, I don't wanna not see what this has to offer and just go back. I know we should live life with no fear and follow our hearts. But what if your heart is truly torn between the two. This is not to say that I'm in love, or @ least I don't think that I am, but I do care for both. I don't want to feel stupid. But I don't want to hold up my life either just to see what he's gonna say. I just don't know. One has my mind and another has my heart and I just don't know which one I want. I know that no one can give me the answers I want, I can't even give them to myself. This is just really weird...

At one point, it seemed I was good. Not that I had the key to everything, but it seemed like I was on smooth sailing, enjoying the ride. But all of a sudden a strong wind came from nowhere and got my map all wet and I can't read it anymore. North, South, East, & West aren't written in plain ol' English anymore. Any way I turn the map confuses and scares me. I don't wanna say yes to one and then feel stupid YET again. That's like sooooo 2007, lol. I really just don't know. I'm trying to listen to my heart and my mind, but I don't feel like I'm hearing anything and that's what scares me.

So I ask...what do you do when you once felt nothing from anywhere, but now your emotions are all over the place and you just feel lost?

Your Heart vs. Your Head: When Is It Time to Walk Away?

Today's subject was inspired by a recent Facebook posting of "My Top 25 songs played on my iPod" and my non-stop play India.Arie. On this person's list, she listed Sade's Is It a Crime? as number 16. Sade is so bomb.com! She sings with so much soul! MMM! Now yall know my morning routine with my iPod, well These Eyes by India.Arie struck a chord in me again! ::why does she make me think so much?!:: Anywhoo, here comes my pondering moment...Sade wants to know, "Is it a crime? Is it a crime? That I still want you. And I want you to want me too." Then India says, "These eyes never saw you leaving. This heart is in need of some healing. These arms are letting you go. That's life and that's the way the story goes."

So where does this leave one who knows what to do but their heart doesn't feel anything and can't guide them? Or what about the one who feels like Sade but the other person isn't acting right and continues to not act right? We must ask ourselves, why do I want you and want you to want me too knowing that you aren't right for me? I know you're not my only option, but I've made you my only option and can't function on my own...is that it? Or maybe I'm scared...scared of what though? Freeing myself of anger, hurt, and possibly that person? I guess I'll find out one day!

Truth is every relationship is a lesson

Truth is I saw it coming but it hurts anyway
Truth is I'm not the reason you're so angry
Truth is you're not the reason I'm so passive
Truth is I've got to take back my power

I guess the bigger question becomes, is it a crime to finally free yourself and walk away with your head and heart as one?

Have a great weekend and & see you on Monday :)

Is It REALLY That Random???

As I sat at my desk yesterday having just hung up with a new found friend, I pondered to myself and said, "Self?!" Myself said, "Hmm?" Why did I just recently meet her? Why didn't I meet her while we were both in school together? So naturally I began to reflect over this past year of my life. Mymy! Have I began some GREAT relationships out of random encounters! Since meeting one person in particular who is my TwinSoul, I wondered what was life really like without her. When I asked her, she responded with "I'm like a tampon. You live life fine on pads until you try a tampon and things are never the same after that." LOL! But she is so right! TwinSoul along with about 7 other people have added so much to my life, that I can't ever imagine life without them.

But in the midst of pondering the thought of these 'random encounters,' I began to wonder if they were REALLY that random? Or if it just wasn't our time to either meet or become closer sooner? I mean all of us went to school together...we hung in the exact same circle of friends...we share the same stories, but yet it didn't jump off until a few months ago.

So what do you think...are random moments really random? Or do we just have to wait for the right time and place? If you have any random moments, please share!