I Spy...

First off, I haven't written for two reasons: 1) I've been working these last few days //surprising, I know\\ 2) I haven't been inspired...so why force it?! Well @ any rate, work has slowed down for a moment and I now have a few things I need to get off of my chest. So today's blog will be a little tangent of each thing that I may later expound upon individually.


Tangent #1: Everything You Do In the Dark WILL Come to Light

After recent conversations with friends and family members on a myriad of topics, a few "secrets" have been let out. Things that people have not only hidden from me, but their spouses, family members, pastors, mentees, and those of the like. Is pride that big and strong that one would rather put up a facade to make a situation seem like something it's not? Is the truth THAT painful?! I don't know...but I do know that a truthful mind and soul helps me to sleep at night. I don't know how other people do it! MY GOODNESS!


Tangent #2: Everything In Life Will NOT Be Given to Us On Silver Platters & Spoons

Even though my life may look good to some, TRUST I have had to work for the little that I do have. Though some things were born in me, I still had to work on those gifts and talents too. I didn't just up and one day end up a bomb.com mime {{if I do say so myself ;)}}, the same goes with singing, playing any sports, whatever. I was given something, and I worked with what I have. People have told me that I don't know the meaning of struggle, that I'm spoiled, and that life has always been easy. Well if that ain't far from the truth, then I don't know what is! Just because I don't sit around complaining about what has happened in my life and how I've been in a house with no lights on because we just didn't have the money, doesn't mean we haven't struggled. My struggle may not have been your struggle, but I too know the meaning of struggle. I don't apologize for having a mother who made up in HER mind to do better for herself and her children. I don't apologize if people do think I'm spoiled. Whatever. But I can tell you this, my life has been no fairy tale. Don't let what I look like now fool ya ;)

Tangent #3: Your Pride Will Always Get You In Some Type of Trouble

Now there is a HUGE difference between being prideful and confident. I'm gonna use a few definitions of each word, just so I can be clear in my point. I think anyone who has mind and can think can see the contrasting differences. But regardless if you're a Christian or not, the Psalm has a very valid point, in my personal opinion. If we are truthful and honest and hardworking and integril, why wouldn't God, the Creator, keep good things away from us. <> I just believe that we could have what we TRULY need and some of our wants too if we weren't such prideful beings at times.

Ok...enough of my ramblings! Toodaloo

And another thing!

Tangent #4: NOBODY OWES YOU NOTHING!

I-O-U NADA & NEITHER DOES ANYONE ELSE!

We can NOT sit around acting like people are just supposed to do stuff for us because we're ::insert your name here::. BooBoo! NO LOVE MUFFIN! NO MA'AM NO SIR! Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that. If you want something, get up and get it.

Ok, that's all for real...I think

Wait 2 more minutes!

Tangent #5: It's Not Selfish To Take A Break from Some People

Have you ever people in your life that just DRAINED you?! Like O-M-G! Always complaining about something...always got something to say...stubborn...stuck in their ways?! Lawd of mercy! That's some monkey doodle foolishness! I have to step back and reevaluate a particular relationship because it's just so draining. I help those who are willing to help themselves. But I'm willing to risk my sanity, my peace of mind, joy, etc just to help other people with their problems and they're not trying to solve them.

................which leads me to tangent #6!.....................

Tangent #6: At The End of the Day, People Are Gonna Do Whatever They Wanna Do

I think this one is pretty self-explanatory.

I'm done for real this time :)

Unhealthy Lifestyles: Part One--Rear View Living

Hello one & all! I hope that each of you had a great and safe holiday weekend. This post is coming close to the time I get off from work because I actually had something that I needed to complete by tomorrow!

As I was talking with some friends last week, we started talking about unhealthy habits that we all have at one point in time. These habits may include diet and exercise, but these aren't the ones that will be discussed. Every Monday during July, I will address a different issue in the series. The first one in the series is entitled, Rear View Living.







Now, the majority of us know how to drive. If we don't know how, we at least know some basic things about operating a car. A major rule that we know is that, you cannot drive while looking in the rear view mirror. Though it helps to look at the mirror every once in a while, that is not where our focus should be. If we try to drive while using that mirror, we will cause accidents, miss exits, and most importanly hurt ourselves and others. While driving, we have this big window that allows us to see what is going on immediately in front of us; whether traffic is slowing down, speeding up, at a standstill, or if we're the only one on the road.

This is often reflective of our everyday lives. We have life, this big opportunity, that allows us to experience different things, meet different people along the way, and to enjoy at racing speeds or when the speed limit is 15mph. As we are on the road of life, however, we cannot become consumed with past mistakes, upsets, or trials. We have to look at those moments through our rear view mirrors and not focus on them. Because if we focus on them, we will miss out on all of the good things, people, and opportunities we are destined to experience. In moments when life is extremely good, we should briefly look through our rear view mirrors to see how far we've come, but not to get out and park our cars there. Look out of your rear view mirror and laugh about choices you made. Or to reflect how God brought you through YET ANOTHER situation.

So regardless of what has happened in life, keep looking out of your main window so that you can see what's ahead of you. Now I'm not promising that you'll be able to see everything coming your way, but if you look out of the bigger window, you'll be better off than looking out of the rear view mirror.

Which mirror are you looking out of?